I remember it like it was yesterday. I went to an audition that I was super excited about and left feeling like my whole world had shattered right before my eyes. At the end of the audition, I was told that I didn’t make it to the next round and- my heart dropped! Even though I would have liked for the no’s to stop… they didn’t. This period of rejections all culminated to what I dubbed, “The Season of NO’s”! Audition after audition in that season I constantly keep hearing “NO”! It was like I had the word “NO” floating over my head for everyone to see and read out loud to me at every audition. For me, it felt like a broken record, and I began to feel a lot of different emotions such as, sadness, anger, confusion and even fear. In those moments, I started to believe that I wasn’t good enough and I actually became very angry with myself and started to question my ability to land new acting roles. I didn’t know it then but in those moments of unsurety,, I began to press closer to God and seek guidance on being content with where I was in my career. I decided to work even harder despite all of the NO’s in order to become the “best” ME!
In the midst of that season, I started taking more acting classes and networking with more people and I began to discover who I was as an actress and singer. It was in that season that I gained a lot of joy and began to trust God like never before. I discovered how failure can sometimes be a catalyst for success and help build a person’s character and prepare them for success in their career.
Shortly, after “My Season of NO’s” I got an email from a theater director who offered me a huge part in the musical, “HairSpray” just from one video audition that I sent in. I know from experience, that rejection doesn’t last forever and that the perfect door (s) will open up for a person if they faint not. Below are 4 ways how failure can help lead you to success in your career.
1. Builds Faith
In that season, I began to actually trust GOD. My faith was tested and I knew that I had to push forward to pass the test. I began to speak positive thoughts daily and anytime a negative thought came to my mind I shot it down immediately! I began to watch what I listen to and the shows that I watched so that my mind would stay focus on the prize at hand- developing my gifts. I also stayed away from comparing my beginnings with someone else middle or end. Everyone has a different story and that’s what makes everyone so unique. The power in learning who you are is power in itself and can lead someone to the success in their career. Over the course of time, my faith got stronger and I began to become very confident in the gifts the Lord blessed me with.
“I tell you the truth, if you had faith even as small as a mustard seed, you could say to this mountain, ‘Move from here to there,’ and it would move. Nothing would be impossible.” – Matthew 17:20
2. Develops Skill
I gained more discipline with my talents when I started taking new acting classes and practicing outside the class. I decided to devote at least one hour a day to develop my craft on a daily basis. So, for me it was going over vocal techniques, learning a new monologue and more. Talent is given but skill is gained through discipline & practicing over and over again. So, if you have a talent don’t neglect it by not honing in on your gifts and developing your skill. Take a new class, go to a workshop, network with new people in your craft or explore where you can grow in that area. Even taking out 15 minutes a day to work on your craft will have an effect on your development. You can start out by doing little by little each day and watch how your skills develop over time.
And let us not grow weary of doing good, for in due season we will reap, if we do not give up. -Galatians 6:9
3. Builds Character
A lot of people look at failing as something bad but I actually look at it as a building stone to build character within’ a person. People often refuse to tackle a new adventure or take on a new job because of fear of failure- I have definitely been in this place before. In 2006, I had a terrible fear of driving the expressway. I literally passed up theater auditions because of my fear of driving on the expressway. It wasn’t until my now husband encouraged me to tackle the fear in 2010 that I broke that fear. As you can see, fear can leave a person in a neutral & stuck place which can cause their life to be put on hold–literally.
And endurance develops strength of character, and character strengthens our confident hope of salvation. – Romans 5:4
4. Wisdom. Wisdom. Wisdom
Understanding the roadblocks or obstacles can be enormous for helping surpass them. Once we learn what doesn’t work it makes it easier to figure out what does. You will never know what doesn’t work if you don’t fall. Instead of giving up in the face of adversity, you can take the reins and positioned yourself in a better place so that you will be prepared for the next audition, job interview or opportunity. There is power in gaining wisdom and knowledge and applying it to your career.
“Blessed are those who find wisdom, those who gain understanding.” – Proverbs 3:13
No matter where you are in your career know that God has a purpose for every season. Every audition that I didn’t get helped build me into the actress & singer that I am today. The rejection actually helped molded me into a better artist and pushed me to work even harder. Never let one experience keep you down because normally when a person has had enough and wants to give up is when the breakthrough happen. Stay encouraged and never give up. 🙂
In what ways have past experience with rejection helped your career or job search?